I recently had a fairly lengthy discussion with my little sister about her wedding date/location. We were talking about the possibility of it being too cold, weighing that risk against the fact that she wants it to be during a particular time of year.
She, like me, is a worrier.
After a long discussion of what-ifs, I tried to impart some older-sister-words-of-wisdom…
“Whit, truth is, you can worry, and stress, and drive yourself crazy wondering what the weather is going to be like on that day. Truth is, though, you have no control over it. So it’s really not worth stressing about.”
We both know she’s still going to stress about it – hell, I would, too (and did… my wedding was also outdoors and I worried constantly about the possibility of rain). But I hope my words can provide at least some solace throughout the next eleven months.
Anyway, you know sometimes, when you’re giving someone advice, and you realize that if you’d only take your OWN advice, your life would be a heck of a lot better?
Anyone who reads this blog knows by now that I am a type-A, over-analyzing, worry-filled control freak. I stress about everything. And then I stress about my stress. And don’t get me wrong – I truly believe sometimes stress can be healthy. But not the kind of undue stress I bring upon myself.
Especially about the things over which I have NO control.
And there are quite a few of those things going on in my world right now.
Have you ever wanted to fast-forward time, or maybe just take a glimpse into the future, just to know the outcome of something? Just to know if it was worth worrying about?
That’s where I am right now with a few things – things for me, things for my family, things for my friends. But in all honesty, as I sit here and think about those things, I realize that I have little to no control over how they end up. So I guess this is where I turn to myself and offer the same advice I gave Whit…
“Hey, Jess… truth is, you have NO control over these things. And you can worry, and stress, but you’re only going to drive yourself crazy. And it’s really not worth it, because worrying about it isn’t going to change how it all ends up.”
Someone once told me that God laughs hysterically when I try to control the universe.
Well, then he must find me to be hilarious.
P.S. Whit – rain or shine, cold or hot – your wedding day is going to be absolutely perfect because it’s you and your soul mate. Xo.